Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things -- being on the same page is very important.
The following tips can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship:
- Speak Up. In a healthy relationship, if something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in.
- Respect Your Partner. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.
- Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way.
- Be Supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down.
- Respect Each Other’s Privacy. Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space.
*Information from LoveisRespect.org
|Signs of a Healthy Relationship||Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship|
|Equality - Partners share decisions and responsibilities. They discuss roles to make sure they're fair and equal.||Control - One partner is making all of the decisions or telling the other partner what to do. Examples are: telling the other person what to wear or who they can and cannot spend time with.|
|Honesty - Partners share their dreams, fears, and concerns with each other. They tell each other how they feel and share important information.||Dishonesty - Lying or keeping information from each other.|
|Comfort - Partners feel safe with each other and respect each other's differences. They realize when they're wrong and are not afraid to say, "I'm sorry." Partners can "be themselves" with each other.||Sexual or Physical Abuse - One partner pressures or forces the other partner to engage in sexual activity without his or her consent, or physical, one partner uses force to get his or her way. This could include hitting, scratching, shoving and many other forms of force.|
|Respect - Partners treat each other like they want to be treated and accept each other's opinions, friends, and interests. They listen to each other.||Disrespect - One partner makes fun of the opinions and interests of the other partner. He or she may destroy something that belongs to the other partner.|
|Physical Safety - Partners feel physically safe in the relationship and respect each other's space.||Intimidation - One partner tries to control every aspect of the other's life. One partner may attempt to keep his or her partner from friends and family or threaten violence or a break-up|
|Sexual Respectfulness - Partners never force sexual activity or insist on doing something the other isn't comfortable with.||Dependence - One partner feels that he/she "can't live without" the other. He/she may threaten to do something drastic if the relationship ends.|
|Independence - Neither partner is dependent upon the other for an identity. Partners maintain friendships outside of the relationship. Either partner has the right to end the relationship.||Hostility - One partner may "walk on eggshells" to avoid upsetting the other. Teasing is mean-spirited.|
|Humor - The relationship is enjoyable for both partners. Partners laugh and have fun.|
*Information from The Red Flag Campaign
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